Overcoming The Feelings Of Loneliness And / Or Isolation

At times we get so busy fulfilling our day-to-day obligations that we do not get a chance to stop and reflect what might be going on for us internally- mentally and physically. On the other hand, we may try to fill our days with things to do for others so that we do not have to think about what we might be feeling internally!

By doing the above we might be trying to suppress our feelings of sadness, hurt, loneliness, and isolation.
 
Does this sound like you?
 
We may know how we feel, but do we know why we feel lonely and isolated?
 
Here are 5 reasons why you may feel as such:

• There may be too much on your plate that stops you from socialising.

You may have a family or you might be looking after someone who is     unwell. You might be working long hours and juggling to get a healthy work-life balance.

• You might be suffering from social anxiety.

You may feel nervous in a crowd, you may be shy and do not feel you have anything important to contribute, or you may feel others are better than you.

• You might be lacking confidence and suffering from low self-esteem.

This could lead to feeling as though you are not good enough and may feel others are better than you. You may feel that you
lack the knowledge and social skills to be friendly and social.

• You might be staying away from home, and from friends and family.

Due to studying, work or any other reason, you may be staying away from your friends and family and that can make you feel alone.

• If you are being bullied or abused you may feel very lonely and isolated, as you might not know what to do. You might also feel that you cannot talk to anyone, as they may not understand.

How to overcome these feelings

Now that we have established some of the reasons that we might be feeling lonely and isolated, let us look at what we can do to overcome these feelings.

• Think about all the relationships around you, past and present, with friends and family.  Think of who you could start reconnecting with, and reach out to them.

 

• Try and find some time to meet up with friends on a one-on-one basis rather than in a group, this way you can talk on a more personal level.

 

• Join some classes to pursue your hobbies or discover new ones. This way you can meet new, like-minded people. This could help you to overcome shyness and build confidence.

 

• Tell yourself that you are good enough, and learn to accept yourself as you are.

 

• Try not to focus on what others may say or think about you.

 

• If you feel lonely and isolated due to disputes with friends and family, try and speak to them to resolve the issue so you can reconnect and rebuild the relationship.

 

• Most importantly, think about whether you are choosing to be alone and isolated. If the answer is yes, then there is nothing to be done, as it is your choice. In this case, you may also then learn to like your own company so you don’t feel lonely and isolated.

If you feel you need assistance in exploring your feelings and thoughts, as well as work through the strategies shown above, feel free to contact me so I can help you by clicking the button below 

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