Valentine’s Day is almost here. Commercially it has been hyped and displayed everywhere you go. It is great for people who have a “Valentine” and looking forward to celebrating the day.
However, what about people who may be single, recently broke up from a relationship, or may have lost their valentine due to death or other circumstances?
To these ones, Valentines Day may not seem fair and could cause emotional pain. It could also bring up painful memories of loss or the reminder of a lack of a relationship.
How can we survive such an emotionally charged day if this is how we feel?
Also, it would raise the question: Why are loved ones expected to shower each other with extra efforts, gifts, time and money to acknowledge the love for each other specifically on this day?
Read my 7 tips to how to survive Valentine’s Day
1 It is ok: Tell yourself it is ok to be single, not to have a date or a relationship.
2 Be your own Valentine: It is time to show love to yourself by doing something special for yourself that would make you happy.
3. Show your strength: It is a sign of strength by not giving into the hype and by feeling sad or sorry for yourself. Having a relationship with you shows your strength.
4. Acknowledge YOU: Take a day out to pamper yourself by treating yourself to a treatment, do meditation, go shopping, arrange a get together with your friends, go to a museum and spend some quality time with yourself.
5. Remind: Remind yourself Valentine’s Day is not just on 14th Feb. Love for yourself should be celebrated everyday.
6. Loss/Grief: If you have lost your loved one due to a break up, through death, or any other circumstances and are missing them, try and think of good memories of them, and treasure those memories and try to find peace within yourself.
7. Nothing lasts forever: Remember, situations will change. Who knows, your valentine could be just round the corner and you may be celebrating the whole year with them soon rather than just on Valentine’s day
Here are my parting words on this matter:
Valentine’s day is what you make of it. Being your own valentine is important before being someone else’s. Try and make the most of each day by loving yourself and spreading love to others. Let me know which tips worked for you and get in touch if you would like some support around any of these issues.
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