Signs You Need Help With Counselling
 
Getting some help and talking to a qualified Counsellor or Psychotherapist is a great start to make sense of what might be going on for you and how to get through it.
 
But, how do you know when you might need help with counselling?
 
I have highlighted some signs below that are common place when someone begins to need help with counseling:
 

• When you are feeling anxious, stressed over a long period of time and do not how to deal with it.

 

• When you feel angry, upset and emotional too quickly but do not understand why.

 

• When you feel low and depressed. You lack energy and motivation and do not know how to go forward.

 

• You have to make a life changing decision and not sure what is the right decision or how to go about it?

 

• When everything might be going okay in your life but you are not able to feel joy or happiness.

 

• When you feel “what is the point”?

 

• When you feel lonely and isolated but also do not feel like socializing or pushing people away.

 

• When you feel you have started to bottle up things, you do not know who to talk to for fear of being judged or criticised.

 

• When nothing makes sense but you feel you have to carry on.

 

•  When you are taking care of others but feel guilty about looking after yourself

 

•  When you start having difficulties in a relationship perhaps due to lack of connection, betrayal or due to the loss of a partner.

 

•  When a loved one passes due to ill health, old age or suicide and you do not know how to cope and move forward.

 

•  When you feel confused, unclear and have a lack direction in your life.

 

•  When your health issues starts affecting your emotional and mental health and wellbeing.

      
 Some of these signs might be recognisable in yourself as you read through them.   If this is the case please think carefully about taking care of yourself and finding someone to talk to.  
 
If you do choose counselling as an option to start talking about how you feel I have written articles about: why counselling can help, how to choose a therapist and what to expect from first counselling session.  You may find these helpful to get more of a sense of what to expect before you go ahead and find a therapist.

My articles can all be found in my blog here www.clearskytherapy.co.uk/blogs

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​It is very common for some people to feel that they are not able to talk about what is going on for them and how they are feeling.  People can feel that if they talked about what is happening to them with their friends and family, work colleagues and managers, they could start to be judged. The common worry is “What will they think of me?”.
 
Why we bottle things up
 
The fear of being seen as weak or having something wrong can seem very real to many people. There may be expectations to “Keep Quiet and Carry On” and as the old saying goes “Stiff upper lip”.  You may be aware of these phrases yourself.
 
Holding many people back is the feeling of shame around not being able to cope or manage by themselves and feel that if they spoke about how they felt they will be looked down upon.
 
Bottling things up however, could cause a lot of insecurities, anxieties and stress. If you were not able to manage these feelings and it carried on for a while, it could lead to you feeling low and depressed. 
 
Why does talking about things help?
 
It doesn’t need to be as we have talked about above. It is very important to talk about your thoughts and feelings so that you can get help in understanding what is going on.  It is also important to understand why you feel the way you do.  You may be then able to see things from a different perspective.
 
It is okay to talk to someone about how you feel, to at least try and start to make sense of what is happening.  The results of these conversations can produce some solutions to your problems and difficult situation that are arising for you.
 
When you speak about how you feel, you may realise you are not the only one who might be feeling this way.  Hearing other people’s experiences first hand helps, as you start to find out what helped and worked for them, meaning you could try these suggestions.
 
When talking to friends and family doesn’t feel like a good option
 
If you feel it would not be okay to speak to your friends or family about how you feel you can think about the option of speaking to a professional  Counsellor or Psychotherapist.  
 
The benefits of doing this is that they will listen and try to understand you and your situation in a completely confidential space without judgment, helping you to understand why you feel the way you do.  
This can help you to look at things from a different perspective and together find some coping mechanisms. The practitioner will also help you to find your own solutions and help you understand yourself better.  Its not always easy to take this step, but it could mean the difference of getting negative feelings and anxieties off your chest, ready to face whatever is in front of you. 
 
The next time you feel like bottling things up, think about this blog and try to take action to talk about your feelings.  
 
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​Mother’s day!
 
Mother’s day is approaching fast. It is a special day to let mothers know how much you appreciate and love her.  Although you should not need to wait until Mother’s Day to tell her how you feel, it is a nice day to make a fuss and/or spoil her, simply by acknowledging mum and letting her know how special she is.
 
It is quite a privilege as a mother to get acknowledged, appreciated and shown love.  As a child you can offer all of that to your mother and also share the feelings of happiness and love.
 
We must never forget that Mothers Day can also be a difficult time for some.   You may resonate with some of the circumstances below:
 
There are mothers who may have lost their own mother due to various reasons like death or may have lost contact due to difficult relationships.   As they enjoy their children’s affections on this day there can be a lot of feelings of loss, regret or sadness also for them,
 
Sadness may be felt at this time for woman who have been unable to have children or who may have lost their child in childbirth or miscarriage.   Mothers Day may also bring sadness and feelings of loss to woman in these circumstances.
 
It can be a difficult time for children (young and old) who may have lost their mum through death or other various situations. 
 
For anyone feeling these feeling around Mothers Day, the day can be made manageable by doing something special for someone else and building new relationships.  Although this may never replace what you feel you have lost, it can keep you focussed and make the day bearable and even may be fun.
 
However the day goes for you, I hope it is a special day or you at least manage to get through the day ok.  
 
If you feel you are going to struggle, please find someone to reach out to, a trusted friend, colleague or professional.
 
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