Those young adults who live away from home have now returned to university.
Having them back at home over the Christmas break could have been exciting, especially around the festive season. All that may be over now, but the new year has begun and with that so has their new term.
Here are 5 R’s to consider through this transitional period.
Routine: Get back into the routine of work-life balance, you may find that it helps to keep yourself busy. Focus on the other children you may have at home, and spend quality time with them to rebuild/strengthen those relationships.
Reassure: Reassure yourself that they are doing fine and getting on with their independent life. Reassure yourself that this is a big transition for you, that both of you will get through. Missing them can be upsetting, but very natural. If you feel that you are not able to cope with this transition, seek help. Talking to a professional can help you with your personal difficulties in this situation.
Remember: They are trying to be independent: finding themselves, and coping with university life. They know where you are, and how to contact you if they should need your help. Being there for them from afar is still reassuring for them.
Rekindle: Rekindle your relationship with your partner. Taking care of children can be tough, and the relationship between partners can be somewhat affected. Taking time out for each other will strengthen your relationship, and give you a support system if you are struggling with this.
Realise: You have a life to live beyond your responsibilities. Give yourself permission to enjoy life and do the things that make you happy. As your child is trying to find themself, you too could use this time to rediscover yourself.