There are many reasons why we lose our voice or even become afraid of using our voices to let others know how we feel about situations or about your opinion on certain matters. In this blog I am referring to your ability to talk about how you are feeling and to express these feelings.
It is important to reflect on why we stop using our voice. Try and remember when you last used your voice to express your feelings? When you were young, were you allowed to have your own voice and opinions and has this continued up to now? When you reflect back on the time when you did use your voice to express yourself, can you think of anything in particular that silenced your voice?
Reasons why we loose the ability to express ourselves.
Sometimes we know what we are thinking and have a strong or passionate opinion on matters but we are afraid of speaking up in fear of:
Though the above list may be valid at times, trying to now allow these to rule how we act, we can start to learn to overcome these feelings. Remember, as a human you have a right to have your voice and you and your voice matter!
Benefits of finding and using your voice
There are benefits of finding and using your voice, like
So how do we find our voice?
I have listed 5 tips to help you find your voice:
1 - Say it out loud without the fear of being wrong. It will be hard in the beginning but it will get easier with time and practice.
2 - Believe in yourself. Know that when it feels right withi, if we are thinking logically and rationally, there are less chances of being wrong. Though it is not about getting it wrong, as it is your own voice.
3 - Be assertive in speaking out, that way you will be respectful of yourself and others and you will be taking responsibility for your own thought process.
4 - Give yourself a permission to speak out instead of waiting for approval or permission from others. Own what you say. Remind yourself that even if it is a different opinion from the other person, it is not necessarily is wrong and that is fine.
5 - If you are not able to say it out loud, then right it down on a piece of paper, or express it via email or text. This might feel less threatening and/or anxiety provoking.
One of the aspects of my work I enjoy is helping people to find thier voice by sitting with them and working together to find best way that would work for them.
If you feel you need assistance in exploring your feelings and thoughts, as well as work through the strategies shown above, feel free to contact me so I can help you by clicking the button below