There are people who always try to please others. They may do this to be liked by others, or not to be judged or criticised. People who try to please others may be lacking in self-esteem and confidence. They may feel they have little or no self worth.
People who try to please others say they are just being polite and respectful and they do not want to create drama by disagreeing with someone or spoil relationships. When we disagree with someone it does not mean we are creating dramas or spoiling relationships.
It is next to impossible to please everyone all the time. The truth is you CAN NOT please everyone and anyone no matter what you do.
Following are at least 3 harmful consequences of trying to please everyone:
1) It would physically, emotionally and mentally drain you. You will lose peace of mind. Once you start doing things just to please someone you will have to continue doing it to maintain the impression you have created of yourself and in the fear of upsetting them.
2) It would make you lose your confidence and self-esteem even more as you will lose the ability to speak up and stand up for yourself and in what you believe. It will take away the ability to express yourself. This will create resentment and anger within you towards yourself and them.
3) It would make you feel anxious, stressed and even feel low or depressed. When you suppress your feelings, your views and your beliefs it would either come out in burst of anger or it would internalise and make you feel low or in some cases even depressed.
So, if you do not want to harm yourself and lose peace of your mind, think why are you trying to please someone and is it worth it?
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