 There are times when people do and say things that makes us angry. Certain situations that happen unexpectedly, or that are out of our control can leave us feeling angry.
In this blog, I am going to explore what anger is and how we can communicate it safely.
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 There are many reasons why we lose our voice or even become afraid of using our voices to let others know how we feel about situations or about your opinion on certain matters. In this blog I am referring to your ability to talk about how you are feeling and to express these feelings.
 At times we get so busy fulfilling our day-to-day obligations that we do not get a chance to stop and reflect what might be going on for us internally- mentally and physically. On the other hand, we may try to fill our days with things to do for others so that we do not have to think about what we might be feeling internally!
 Life sometimes seems cruel and unfair when it makes us go through heartache of losing someone we love. Their death may be due to old age, illness, an accident, suicide or murder. Each of these circumstances is going to generate different feelings of emotional turmoil inside us.
 These days the percentages of people suffering from work-related stress is quite high. Stress develops when you feel overwhelmed or feel unable to cope with the situation. (for quick reading scroll down to the bottom of this blog to find out my 6 steps to help you manage stress)
 Have you ever thought why you take things personally? It could have a massive impact on your emotional, mental and physical health. As a social human being, communication is a very essential part of our lives. In our daily life we are constantly communicating with each other. However, we may not be able to communicate our thoughts and feelings effectively.
 At times we choose to do something, plan to achieve a goal and we may be initially excited but when the time comes to put plan into action, sometimes we pull back. We delay taking actions and come up with very many reasons/excuses. We tell ourselves we will do it tomorrow, or there is another thing has come up which is urgent. We try to delay as much as we can.
 Mental Health, simply put is one’s Psychological, Emotional and Social Well-being. How we think, feel and behave can impact on our mental health.
 Confrontation is often seen in such negative light. Confrontation is strongly associated with shouting, screaming, fighting and aggression. It can also be seen as upsetting someone or making someone angry and therefore assumed as a negative interaction, when the intent of the confrontation was to simply put our point of view across. To an extent this may be true, but let’s look at it a bit more closely. Of course, confrontation can take place when there are opposing ideas where our ego can come in the way and we feel the need to defeat the other party. This can get out of hand depending on the passion that both parties put into proving their points or in winning their arguments. It may also show how strongly they believe in their views. So, let’s look at the consequences of confrontation, that end with aggression:
Are these arguments worth having? Even if you win the argument, at what cost? So, how can we deal with confrontation?
Has this made sense? Do you feel that it has resonated with you in any way? If you wish to learn more about how to manage the confrontational part of you or if you are afraid of confronting someone, click on contact page to make that initial appointment. I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  Stress is the pressure and strain you feel when you have too much going on due to some of the life changing events. You may feel that you are unable to cope and manage your day-to-day life obligations.
There are many reasons why we feel stressed, which will be discussed briefly here below. Stress can be positive and negative. Positive stresses are good as it motivates us to achieve our goals and excite us. Examples of Positive stresses include:
Negative stresses can be strenuous and if not managed properly can be detrimental to an individual. Examples of negative stresses are:
When your body and mind cannot cope with the pressures, it starts manifesting in to physical illnesses and/or emotional health issues, such as the following: Physical Health would suffer in the form of
Emotional health can be affected by
If you resonated with the above, and wanted to learn how to manage your stress contact me via my contact page. I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  Counselling – A Therapist’s Perspective A lot has been written about counselling for and from a client’s perspective. Today, I wanted to explore counselling from a therapist’s perspective. It is a great journey for one to become a therapist. Most counsellors who choose to become a therapist have more than likely been through a tough or traumatic time in their lives. They have gone through their own journey and have found a way to work through their own difficulties and issues in order to gain insight and understanding about themselves and their difficulties. They have more than likely got through by help and guidance from their friends and family and or other resources like having their own therapy. It takes a lot of courage and determination to become a therapist. They go through tough training, a lot of to undergo training, and put themselves out there to gain theoretical and practical experiences to understand and what is their mission on their chosen path. They have their own therapy whilst on training, they have supervision, and they continue to work through their own difficulties in order to become very knowledgeable and experienced. Most therapists feel it is a privilege to be in this position. You might wonder, what might a therapist think when they agree to see a new client. The therapists’ might wonder about what the client may bring in the room, what might have attracted them to contact them in particular. The therapist tries to empathise with their client in order to understand their client’s inner and outer world. The therapist aims to support and protect their client by staying neutral. They want to help their client to understand him or herself better and help them to find the answers from within. They intend to empower and encourage their clients without imposing their views or expectations. I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  3 Tips On How To Bring Peace Into Your Life
In this day and age, peoples’ lives seem to be so stressful. People have stresses around their family, children, and social life. There are stresses around work too. It feels like there is so much expected of us and there is always so much to do. Things are constantly being added and we have to be like a superhuman to cope and manage it, which sounds really impossible. Trying to carry on and act like a superhuman causes a lot of emotional, physical and mental health issues. The impact could be very damaging. How can we bring peace in our lives? Here are 3 Tips:
I would love to hear if you have tried these and how it worked out for you. Feel free to comment and let me know about your experiences. am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  5 Tips On How To Manage DepressionDo you feel low or depressed? Have you been diagnosed suffering from Depression?
Consider these questions: Do you feel you struggle coping with your day-to-day life? Do you feel you find it very difficult to get out of bed in the morning? Do you feel you lack motivation and energy to do anything? Do you feel you find it too much to talk or Socialise with anyone? Do you feel helpless and hopeless? Do you have difficulties around sleep? Do you feel your appetite has changed? Do you have thoughts of not being here or harming yourself? Do you feel you are not able to concentrate on a task? The above situations can be some of the symptoms of depression. Do you feel you suffer from any or some of them? Then please contact your GP in the first instance. Next, it also helps to have some way to manage how you feel, so I have listed below 5 ways you can start managing depression TODAY! 5 Tips for Managing Depression Talk to someone: If you feel you are not coping and feeling scared or anxious, speak to someone like a friend or a family member. If you do not feel comfortable talking to them then call your GP and seek their advice. If it is out of hours for GP surgeries then you can call Samaritans www.samaritans.org or look online for other agencies in your area.. You can also seek help and finding someone to talk to by accessing counseling. Find a list of counsellors by searching ‘Counsellors in your area’ on an Internet search or by asking your GP to refer you to one. Exercise and Diet: You can start making changes in your diet. Adding some healthy options to your diet, by trying to eat regular and healthy meals will help. You can start doing some exercise by going to the gym, joining exercise classes or going for a jog or walk. Make exercise part of your daily routine. Also, try and have a sleep routine so that you get enough rest and re energize yourself. Set Goals: Set yourself 3 goals a day and try to achieve it. This will give you a routine and hopefully motivate you to do things during the day. Think about taking up a hobby, these activities will help you to keep your brain active. Music, Meditation and Mindfulness: Listen to music to calm you down and to relax. Learn to meditate or sign up for a Mindfulness course. These will help to calm your mind and to generate calming thoughts to help you find peace. Challenge your negative thoughts: Try and challenge your negative thoughts and see if you can turn them into rational or positive ones. These will help you to motivate you take charge of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. I recommend trying at least one of these activities if you feel you have symptoms of depression. If you feel you would like some more help around dealing with your feelings, don’t hesitate to contact me via my contact page or any of my social media profiles below. Have a great day! I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  What is counselling?
There is a lot of misconception and confusion around what counseling is. Here are a few common misconceptions I hear often: - Counselling is a place where the client talks and therapist listens. - Counselling is a place where you can get advise what to do in regards to your present situation - Counselling is a place where therapist would tell you what to do or what decision to make - Counselling is a place where you tell your therapist about your problems and they would solve your problems and make you feel better instantly. Although there may be some truth in the statements and thoughts above, there is also a lot more to counseling as outlined below: Counselling is a place where you can speak about your most difficult thoughts, feelings and circumstances in utmost confidence in a safe place. Counselling is a place where the therapist is there to listen and understand you without judgment and prejudice. Counselling is a place where your wellbeing and safety is most important to your therapist Counselling is a place where thoughts and feelings are explored to understand you and your situation better then to work together to find the options and possible solutions to your dilemma or presenting problems. Counselling is a place where therapist will not tell you what to do but will help you to know yourself better which will help you to find the answers which are within you and help you to make the right decision for your circumstances Counselling is a place where you are able to offload and express your deepest feelings, cry and be emotional without being judged. (Be aware that counseling cannot guarantee that you will feel better instantly, give it time) Counselling is a process and it takes time to work through things. The more a client is willing to put work or effort in, the more likely they will benefit from their counselling sessions.. Counselling is a place where the therapist comes on a journey with their client to support and possibly to get the client through their difficult situation. I hope this has given you a deeper insight into what counselling is. If you have any questions or comments feel free to contact me. I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  There are people who always try to please others. They may do this to be liked by others, or not to be judged or criticised. People who try to please others may be lacking in self-esteem and confidence. They may feel they have little or no self worth.
People who try to please others say they are just being polite and respectful and they do not want to create drama by disagreeing with someone or spoil relationships. When we disagree with someone it does not mean we are creating dramas or spoiling relationships. It is next to impossible to please everyone all the time. The truth is you CAN NOT please everyone and anyone no matter what you do. Following are at least 3 harmful consequences of trying to please everyone: 1) It would physically, emotionally and mentally drain you. You will lose peace of mind. Once you start doing things just to please someone you will have to continue doing it to maintain the impression you have created of yourself and in the fear of upsetting them. 2) It would make you lose your confidence and self-esteem even more as you will lose the ability to speak up and stand up for yourself and in what you believe. It will take away the ability to express yourself. This will create resentment and anger within you towards yourself and them. 3) It would make you feel anxious, stressed and even feel low or depressed. When you suppress your feelings, your views and your beliefs it would either come out in burst of anger or it would internalise and make you feel low or in some cases even depressed. So, if you do not want to harm yourself and lose peace of your mind, think why are you trying to please someone and is it worth it? I write about various topics similar to this blog on my blog page www.clearskytherapy.co.uk/blogs If you feel this blog has spoke to you and you feel you would like some more help, please contact me and get in touch. I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on: Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  Signs You Need Help With Counselling
Getting some help and talking to a qualified Counsellor or Psychotherapist is a great start to make sense of what might be going on for you and how to get through it. But, how do you know when you might need help with counselling? I have highlighted some signs below that are common place when someone begins to need help with counseling:
Some of these signs might be recognisable in yourself as you read through them. If this is the case please think carefully about taking care of yourself and finding someone to talk to. If you do choose counselling as an option to start talking about how you feel I have written articles about: why counselling can help, how to choose a therapist and what to expect from first counselling session. You may find these helpful to get more of a sense of what to expect before you go ahead and find a therapist. My articles can all be found in my blog here www.clearskytherapy.co.uk/blogs If you feel this blog has spoke to you and you feel you would like some more help, please contact me and get in touch. I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  It is very common for some people to feel that they are not able to talk about what is going on for them and how they are feeling. People can feel that if they talked about what is happening to them with their friends and family, work colleagues and managers, they could start to be judged. The common worry is “What will they think of me?”.
Why we bottle things up The fear of being seen as weak or having something wrong can seem very real to many people. There may be expectations to “Keep Quiet and Carry On” and as the old saying goes “Stiff upper lip”. You may be aware of these phrases yourself. Holding many people back is the feeling of shame around not being able to cope or manage by themselves and feel that if they spoke about how they felt they will be looked down upon. Bottling things up however, could cause a lot of insecurities, anxieties and stress. If you were not able to manage these feelings and it carried on for a while, it could lead to you feeling low and depressed. Why does talking about things help? It doesn’t need to be as we have talked about above. It is very important to talk about your thoughts and feelings so that you can get help in understanding what is going on. It is also important to understand why you feel the way you do. You may be then able to see things from a different perspective. It is okay to talk to someone about how you feel, to at least try and start to make sense of what is happening. The results of these conversations can produce some solutions to your problems and difficult situation that are arising for you. When you speak about how you feel, you may realise you are not the only one who might be feeling this way. Hearing other people’s experiences first hand helps, as you start to find out what helped and worked for them, meaning you could try these suggestions. When talking to friends and family doesn’t feel like a good option If you feel it would not be okay to speak to your friends or family about how you feel you can think about the option of speaking to a professional Counsellor or Psychotherapist. The benefits of doing this is that they will listen and try to understand you and your situation in a completely confidential space without judgment, helping you to understand why you feel the way you do. This can help you to look at things from a different perspective and together find some coping mechanisms. The practitioner will also help you to find your own solutions and help you understand yourself better. Its not always easy to take this step, but it could mean the difference of getting negative feelings and anxieties off your chest, ready to face whatever is in front of you. The next time you feel like bottling things up, think about this blog and try to take action to talk about your feelings. If you feel this blog has spoke to you and you feel you would like some more help, please click on my contact button and get in touch. I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/ Mother’s day!
Mother’s day is approaching fast. It is a special day to let mothers know how much you appreciate and love her. Although you should not need to wait until Mother’s Day to tell her how you feel, it is a nice day to make a fuss and/or spoil her, simply by acknowledging mum and letting her know how special she is. It is quite a privilege as a mother to get acknowledged, appreciated and shown love. As a child you can offer all of that to your mother and also share the feelings of happiness and love. We must never forget that Mothers Day can also be a difficult time for some. You may resonate with some of the circumstances below: There are mothers who may have lost their own mother due to various reasons like death or may have lost contact due to difficult relationships. As they enjoy their children’s affections on this day there can be a lot of feelings of loss, regret or sadness also for them, Sadness may be felt at this time for woman who have been unable to have children or who may have lost their child in childbirth or miscarriage. Mothers Day may also bring sadness and feelings of loss to woman in these circumstances. It can be a difficult time for children (young and old) who may have lost their mum through death or other various situations. For anyone feeling these feeling around Mothers Day, the day can be made manageable by doing something special for someone else and building new relationships. Although this may never replace what you feel you have lost, it can keep you focussed and make the day bearable and even may be fun. However the day goes for you, I hope it is a special day or you at least manage to get through the day ok. If you feel you are going to struggle, please find someone to reach out to, a trusted friend, colleague or professional. I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  Recognising that you need help and taking that first step to look for a therapist and book the initial session is a major step, never to be underestimated. You may have already gone through the process of choosing a therapist that you feel might be the right one for you. (If you have not chosen a therapist or not sure how to choose a right therapist for you, here is a link to my blog The Top 3 Things To Consider When Choosing A Therapist. http://www.clearskytherapy.co.uk/blogs/the-top-3-things-to-consider-when-choosing-a-therapist) Now, you must be wondering about what to expect from your first session. Below I have listed 5 Things To Expect From Your First Counselling Session. 1 Expect to feel anxious: It is very natural to feel anxious, as you may not know what will happen in your first session. You may even wonder what will be expected of you. Anxiety may arise around finding the location and getting there on time; all of this is normal and can be part of your initial anxiety. I would advise you try and relax if you can (look for some relaxation techniques or ask a trusted friend). The therapist will be there to guide you. In order to do this initially, they will ask for the information in order to assess your need and establish how they are going to help you. 2 Gauging Rapport: This initial session is an important session to see:
3 Check out the environment: When you meet the therapist for the first time, check out the surrounds, inside and outside the therapy room. Think about how it feels to be there. Consider how you felt on your way to your session. Check out the room and see if it feels welcoming and calming to you. Ask yourself: Do I feel comfortable being here? If you do, it will help you to talk to the therapist and get the most out of your session. 4 Assessment/Consultation: This initial session is for the therapist to assess your needs and difficulties. It may involve talking about the framework; meaning they may explain how they work and what is expected of you. Though, do not forget the sessions are your space and time for you to talk about what you want/need to. You may be asked to fill out a form and perhaps sign an agreement. You will be given an explanation about confidentiality and the cancellation policy. This session may be used to talk about your background, your past experiences and you may be asked what it is that you wish to get out of these sessions. You will also have an opportunity to ask any questions you may have. 5 You are in charge: From the moment you recognised that you are not able to cope and/ or manage your present situation; when you started to feel that you would benefit from seeking help, to your first initial consultation, remember YOU are in charge of this decision. Whether you wish to express in your first or future sessions that this is not the right time for you or the right therapist for you, you will not be forced to make a decision there and then or to book further sessions. Remember you can agree to continue OR to take time to think and then get back to them. Therapy is about exploring your thoughts and feelings around what is happening to you. It is always a two-way process. A therapist is there to guide you, empower you and support you. It is up to you as to how much you are able to be open and what you want to talk about. But what I will say is the more you do the more you will benefit from it. Remember, therapists do not have a magic wand to take away your troubles, but they will be there to support you through your journey and see you through your difficult times. If you feel this has helped you, please feel free to comment. Click the Contact tab on my site if you think you would like to chat to me about how I can help you. I am also active on Social Media; you can follow my posts, get in touch and follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy, Twitter https://twitter.com/counsellorHA1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kkumar3/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kajal-kumar-pgdip-mbacp-accred-3805b942/  Sometimes life may seem overwhelming, confusing, and challenging.
It can leave you wondering: Why me? Why now? It may feel like a lot might be going on in different areas of your life at the same time, or a tragedy may have struck, or a traumatic incident could have taken place. These could bring up a lot of emotions like shock, anger, and sadness. You may feel that you do not know how to cope with it all, or whom you can turn to for help. You may have supportive family, friends, and colleagues. A lot of work places even run a wellbeing scheme, which you may be able to take advantage of. However, for some of us, it does not help to talk to friends and family because feeling embarrassed or ashamed about not being “strong” enough, or capable of handling the situation. Sometimes we may feel that no one listens to or can understand us. Here are 7 reasons why counselling can help:
There can be a lot of stigma around counselling. Some people feel they have to be “crazy”, weak or have something wrong with them in order to seek counselling. However, talking to a counsellor does not mean you are going crazy or you lack strength. In fact, it takes a MASSIVE courage to seek out help. If reading this has helped you to recognise that you need help, then do not wait. Here’s a link to my previous blog about The Top 3 Things to consider when choosing a therapist. http://www.clearskytherapy.co.uk/articles/the-top-3-things-to-consider-when-choosing-a-therapist If you feel I can help you, please be in touch by sending a message via my contact page.  Valentine’s Day is almost here. Commercially it has been hyped and displayed everywhere you go. It is great for people who have a “Valentine” and looking forward to celebrating the day.
However, what about people who may be single, recently broke up from a relationship, or may have lost their valentine due to death or other circumstances? To these ones, Valentines Day may not seem fair and could cause emotional pain. It could also bring up painful memories of loss or the reminder of a lack of a relationship. How can we survive such an emotionally charged day if this is how we feel? Also, it would raise the question: Why are loved ones expected to shower each other with extra efforts, gifts, time and money to acknowledge the love for each other specifically on this day? Read my 7 tips to how to survive Valentine’s Day 1 It is ok: Tell yourself it is ok to be single, not to have a date or a relationship. 2 Be your own Valentine: It is time to show love to yourself by doing something special for yourself that would make you happy. 3. Show your strength: It is a sign of strength by not giving into the hype and by feeling sad or sorry for yourself. Having a relationship with you shows your strength. 4. Acknowledge YOU: Take a day out to pamper yourself by treating yourself to a treatment, do meditation, go shopping, arrange a get together with your friends, go to a museum and spend some quality time with yourself. 5. Remind: Remind yourself Valentine’s Day is not just on 14th Feb. Love for yourself should be celebrated everyday. 6. Loss/Grief: If you have lost your loved one due to a break up, through death, or any other circumstances and are missing them, try and think of good memories of them, and treasure those memories and try to find peace within yourself. 7. Nothing lasts forever: Remember, situations will change. Who knows, your valentine could be just round the corner and you may be celebrating the whole year with them soon rather than just on Valentine’s day Here are my parting words on this matter: Valentine’s day is what you make of it. Being your own valentine is important before being someone else’s. Try and make the most of each day by loving yourself and spreading love to others. Let me know which tips worked for you and get in touch if you would like some support around any of these issues. You can get in touch by twitter @counsellorHA1 and Facebook www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy  It is not always easy to seek help or to know when to get help. If you are considering getting help from a counsellor/psychotherapist, here are the 3 top factors to consider. 1) Qualifications, experience, and their membership to a professional body: These days there is an overwhelming choice of therapists and modalities to choose from. This can make the task harder. Check out their qualifications to assure yourself that they have done the necessary work of learning and understanding how to help their clients. See how many years of experience that they have, what areas they work with, and if they work with the specific issues that you are looking to get help with. Each qualified therapist is expected to be a member of a professional body. They are also expected to adhere to that body’s ethical framework. Some recognized professional bodies include the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and the UKCP (United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy). 2) Impression What impression does a therapist’s profile have on you? It is important to connect with the right therapist. Have a read of their profiles on a counselling directory and from their professional bodies. A lot tend to post their photographs, look at them and see if you feel that you can speak to them, talk to them, and connect with them. Go with your initial/gut instinct. If you feel positive about the therapist after reading their profile, what they offer, and if they work with your presenting issues, contact them for an initial consultation. Of course, meeting them in person can help to make your final decision on whether to continue or not. 3) Practical and convenience: Check out their location: is it convenient and to get to via car or public transport? Are there parking facilities? What do they offer? What is the length of their sessions? What are their fees? It is sometime hard to recognise and accept we need help. Once you accept go and get the help. It is good to talk and get a different perspective and support. Help is at hand. Feel free to message me if you feel I may be able to help you. I would love to hear how you get on, feel free to contact me on Twitter @counsellorHA1 and Facebook www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy  Beat The January Blues With These 5 Tips
January is almost coming to an end. It may have brought mixed emotions and feelings. A lot of people find this month difficult, depressing, and mundane. Winter months are dark and grey. It is a month of getting back into routines and juggling the work-life balance once again. If you share this experience of coming through winter with feelings of stress and disappointment, do not worry it is normal. However you can take some action to give yourself the care you need. Read my 5 tips below and try out at least one in the coming month. Here are five tips to take care yourself, and to beat the residue of January Blues. 1. Socialise: Meet up with your friends and family for a coffee or a night out. Go to social events. Network and try to meet new people. Find out about events for your hobbies, and meet with groups who share your interests. 2. Exercise: Go for walks, exercise, find physical activities that don’t feel like a chore, eat healthily, and drink plenty of water. You will start feeling better emotionally, physically and mentally. 3. Plan something to look forward to: Plan your next holiday or mini-break. Plan to visit friends and/or family. Book tickets to the theatre, or a football match. Having something to get excited about will keep your spirits up. 4. Meditate: Meditate every day for 20 minutes. Start with 2 minutes and increase up to 20 minutes. Join Yoga classes and practice every day. This will clear your mind and help you to feel less overwhelmed. 5. Relax: Learn to set time aside just to relax. Spend some quality time with yourself and with your family members. I would love to hear how you get on, feel free to contact me on Twitter @counsellorHA1 and Facebook www.facebook.com/ClearSkyTherapy  Those young adults who live away from home have now returned to university. Having them back at home over the Christmas break could have been exciting, especially around the festive season. All that may be over now, but the new year has begun and with that so has their new term. Here are 5 R’s to consider through this transitional period. Routine: Get back into the routine of work-life balance, you may find that it helps to keep yourself busy. Focus on the other children you may have at home, and spend quality time with them to rebuild/strengthen those relationships. Reassure: Reassure yourself that they are doing fine and getting on with their independent life. Reassure yourself that this is a big transition for you, that both of you will get through. Missing them can be upsetting, but very natural. If you feel that you are not able to cope with this transition, seek help. Talking to a professional can help you with your personal difficulties in this situation. Remember: They are trying to be independent: finding themselves, and coping with university life. They know where you are, and how to contact you if they should need your help. Being there for them from afar is still reassuring for them. Rekindle: Rekindle your relationship with your partner. Taking care of children can be tough, and the relationship between partners can be somewhat affected. Taking time out for each other will strengthen your relationship, and give you a support system if you are struggling with this. Realise: You have a life to live beyond your responsibilities. Give yourself permission to enjoy life and do the things that make you happy. As your child is trying to find themself, you too could use this time to rediscover yourself. |
AuthorKajal is a practicing counsellor based in Harrow. Northwest London.
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